Coaching Women to Heal and Succeed
Nobody finds life harder than a woman who has dedicated the prime years of her life to marriage, only to be faced with divorce at the end of the rainbow. Nanette Murphy was one such woman. In 2010, her world came crashing down when her husband and a ‘friend’ betrayed her in the worst way possible. For two years, she tried to grasp what had happened and did everything to save her marriage, only to have it fall apart.
“I was not the mother or woman I wanted to be. Eventually I realized that marriage was not going to work, and that is when I truly started to heal. It was not easy or quick, but with determination I began to move ahead. Gaining confidence and inner strength by stepping out of my comfort zone helped me realize all that I was capable of. My purpose now is to help other women do the same.”
Today, Nanette is a leading Divorce & Health Coach for women. Based in Michigan, USA, she is the Founder of her own coaching practice – Live Life Now, as well as the Founder of the Private FB Group ‘Women Divorcing After Decades of Marriage’.
Ever so often, she comes across a woman who tells her – ‘I wish I had known you when I was divorcing.’ And this drives her to help them everyday – to create a safe space for them, and allow them to gain knowledge, insight and information on how to prepare, proceed and move through the divorce process.
This is her passion, as well as her biggest challenge – reaching the women whom she knows need coaching. She is not an advocate of divorce, but holds that when you are thrown into it, you must be aware of what needs to be done. Speaking about her own example, she says, “In 2010, I googled how to save my marriage. It never occurred to me to google how to divorce. It wasn’t until 2021 that I learned about Divorce Coaches. I had no idea what I needed to do and relied on my lawyer. The clock is always ticking and the $$$ adds up quickly. At times, they are dealing with your emotions and it costs YOU a lot. We have to change this mindset… a Lawyer is NOT always the first person you need to hire. I strongly believe the Lawyer is 3rd in line. I had a Counselor too, but I know I would have benefited more from a Coach.”
A Coach helps ease stress, supports you to deal with emotions, and assists you in preparation for what lies ahead. They can also give insight for the future which is essential. “I want to make women who are contemplating divorce realize how beneficial a Divorce Coach can and will be on this challenging journey. Healing is an active process. Nothing will happen magically. I don’t believe in luck. I believe everything in life worth having or doing takes hard work and dedication.”
The determination to serve others has seen Nanette emerge as a thought leader. Always willing to lend a helping hand, she decided to share her learnings and became a published author in 2021 with: ‘Shattered Dreams & New Beginnings – My journey of heartbreak, healing and growth’. In addition, she has been a part of 2 multi-author books; created a Journal for women divorcing; created a Digital Guide (Preparing For Divorce With No Regrets) for women to follow in the privacy of their home – 4 modules with 2.5 hours of video content – her new book coming out in May 2023 – A Clearer Path to Divorce; how she prepared for divorce with financial, professional & emotional support; contributing to Brainz Magazine in 2022; featured in WomLead Magazine in 2022; etc. In March 2023, she was part of the Women Thrive Summit, and featured on the Wellness Show podcast.
Does she like being a part of the rat race, we ask her? “Neither a rat nor a tiger, I think I would rather be considered a giraffe – graceful, and able to reach higher than ever anticipated.”
Full of wisdom that comes only with experience, Nanette takes this opportunity to send a message to all the women out there: “Being a woman divorcing after decades of marriage is a scary, devastating journey. One that brings on anxiety, fear, confusion and worry. My purpose is to help these women through their journey and make them realize that they are not starting over, but they do have the opportunity of a ‘New Beginning’. This next chapter is theirs to write. They hold the pen!”